Apr 8, 2021
Help Your Teen Navigate
Life with Erica Rood
We were all teens at some point.
And as we know, our teenage years gave us some of the most
memorable yet most challenging experiences in our lives.
Unfortunately, some of us weren’t equipped to handle our problems.
And when we become parents, we sometimes forget what it was once
like to be in the same position.
During this period, our teens
undergo life's most significant transitions. This stage can be both
exciting and overwhelming. As a parent, how can you make sure that
you're giving your teen the support they need during this
In this episode, Erica Rood
joins us to share valuable insights into parenting teenagers. She
talks about the biggest challenges for teens and parents and
imparts suggestions on how to navigate them. This conversation will
help you identify the guidance your teens need as you go through
If you want to know how you can
best support your teen’s growth and development, then this episode
is for you!
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the
- Discover how to navigate the biggest teen
- Learn about the unique dynamics of
- Find out the most prominent challenges young
women face today and how you can help support them.
Erica’s Coaching Journey
- As a coach, Erica specializes in working with
pre-teens, teens, young adult women, and parents of pre-teens and
- Before this, she worked as a teacher for around
15 years. But she didn't want to stay in the classroom
- During her master's thesis, she realized that
she had a passion for helping young girls in her class.
- Her thesis was about relational aggression.
Part of its curriculum was around helping girls learn more about
themselves, friendships, and handling conflict.
Young Girls’ Development
- In fourth grade, peer groups start to become
essential and influential.
- Middle school years are some of the toughest
- In formal education, it’s more about academics
and testing rather than helping children with their social and
Transitioning to Her Coaching Practice
- Erica completed two training programs and
started her career.
- Before COVID, she was a little fearful of going
full-time as a coach. She taught part-time two days a week and
slowly built her coaching practice.
- Part of the fear to fully transition is people
pointing out its risks.
- The district moved her to a different school
and put her in a kindergarten class, which wasn’t her
- In December 2019, before COVID hit and schools
shut down, Erica resigned from her teaching job.
Erica on Writing Her Book
- Erica started writing her book
Power Up Your Parenting: A
Practical Guide for Parenting Preteen and Teen Girls
five years ago.
- Writing a book has always been in the back of
her mind. She wrote blogs, but she needed to get some
- She started working with a writing coach.
However, she didn’t finish the program because she already picked
up the pace on her own.
- She began by thinking about the tools she
thinks parents need most in their parenting journey. In the
process, she was able to draw and repurpose some blogs.
- Luckily, she had a friend who runs a publishing
company who helped her with the editing and publishing
A Book for Busy Parents
- With parents being busy, they don’t have the
time to read through a heavy 500-page book.
- As such, the book's format is something light
- You can look for a topic that interests you and
read up on it.
- The publishing company she worked with is about
empowering teens and youth.
- A team of high school students created the
illustrations in her book.
Navigating the Biggest Parenting and Teen
- The biggest struggle for parents is finding the
right way to support and communicate with their teens.
- The best way to build connection and enhance
communication is to meet your teen where they
- Be curious and open to what they’re going
- The biggest things teens struggle with are
confidence and self-esteem.
How to Support Your Teenage Kids
- A lot of times, helping your teen is about
paying attention to your language.
- When giving a pep talk, it’s best to be
specific and link their qualities and strengths to an action or
- Doing so helps your teen build a better sense
- Along with telling them what qualities they
need, parents also need to model these qualities to their
Different Faces of Parenting
- The role stepparents play is slightly different
from what a biological parent plays.
- Regardless, it's vital to dig into your
parenting style and tune into where your teen is at.
- Teens with split and blended families take some
time to adjust to a new family member.
- Stepparents must be patient; don’t take things
- When teens direct their aches towards a
stepparent, see it as a sign that they feel safe around you.
Shifting your perspective helps them express their feelings
The Biggest Challenges Young Women Face
- Body image and self-image are significant
challenges, especially with the existence of social
- Another huge challenge for young women is
handling big life transitions and making decisions on their
How to Support Young Women
- To deal with body image, you need to build your
inner sense of self.
- Look for inner qualities and values. These are
constant and strengthen over time.
- Furthermore, they have to understand that the
body is constantly changing. Meet your body with
- Adults also need to monitor themselves because
sometimes we show teens how to be self-critical.
- For older teens, parents need to find the
balance between support and rescue.
Erica’s Daily Non-Negotiables
- Erica has a solid and organized daily
- She drinks a lot of water.
- Erica also values mindfulness and
- She believes that we have to be flexible in
- Nonetheless, the constants for Erica are her
morning routine and gratitude practice.
Advice to a Parent Struggling in Their Relationship
with Their Teenage Daughter
- Ask for help. There are many ways to get
- Bringing in another perspective can help you
find solutions and discover a different approach to your
- The teenage years are an optimal stage of
- Teens need the tools and the approach of a
5 Powerful Quotes from This Episode
“Now, I often say to parents,
teens need a new kind of parent; they need a different kind of
support than they did when they were younger, when they were in
elementary school. And you know, parents kind of need to learn how
to make the shift.”
“I think one of the best ways to
really build the connection and enhance communication is to meet
your teen where she is. And as you pointed out, be curious, be open
to what she's going through and try to put yourself in her
“The young women I coach, they
need support in decision making and really broadening their
perspective. So they can see all angles and think through some of
the choices that they have and the outcomes that they really are
“Sometimes I'll ask the girls
that I work with, ‘Do you want to be with your body and for it? Or
do you want to be against it?’ Because if you're constantly
fighting your shape, it's just gonna be a battle for the rest of
“And I just think that in any
case, we just don't have to go through life alone. And to be
courageous enough to say, ‘Hey, can you support me?’ or, ‘Can you
give me some advice?’, ‘Can you give me some coaching?’”
Erica Rood is
the founder of Inspire Balance Coaching. She is a certified Family,
Parent, and Teen Coach from the Academy For Family Coach Training
and a certified Teen Wisdom Inc. Life Coach. She graduated with a
bachelor’s degree in Liberal Studies with a minor in Child
Development. Erica also holds a master’s degree in Education,
focusing on Teaching Learning and Leadership.
Formerly a teacher, Erica has 15
years of teaching and coaching experience. Her coaching programs
support young women as they transition to adulthood with confidence
using specific and effective coaching tools.
Erica is the author of the
book Power Up Your
Parenting: A Practical Guide for Parenting Preteen and Teen
Girls. She is also a
featured author in Balance Mom Magazine, Zen Mom, and Kids Helping
Kids book series.
If you wish to connect with
Erica, you may visit Inspire
Balance’s website. You can also get in touch with her
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